Ladies...

So, the other day I was on Pinterest, yes I love Pinterest and I am not ashamed :), anyways...someone had pinned a picture of a woman in a bikini who was over weight.  Let me first make a point in telling you that she looked phenomenal...I don't know how much she weighed...she looked fantastic.  The comments following this pin gave huge insight into the world that we females have created for ourselves.  One comment talks about how her weight isn't healthy, another calls her a "real woman", the following comment is of a woman who is offended by the "real woman" comment.  This ridiculous stream went on forever.  I don't think one of those women ever thought once that the woman in the picture may possibly see what they have said.  OR that the woman who posted this picture was over weight herself and felt encouraged by someone who was happy with their body.  They never thought about how they may make that woman feel.  What are we arguing about?!  Why couldn't it have just been a picture of a beautiful woman albeit her weight?  This picture had nothing to do with comparison, it was about the freedom of being not only comfortable in your own skin, but beautiful in it.  Why do we do this to each other?  And its not just the weight thing...its EVERYTHING.  She's a working mom...she's a stay-at-home mom.  Let me say, I have been both of these and both come with their own insecurities.  The working mom struggles with not staying at home and the stay-at-home mom struggles with the fact that she isn't bringing anything in monetarily or living up to the "modern woman" standard.  This may be a generalization, but I think you get my point.  We are already our own worst enemies...do we really need to be that for each other also?  Can I just say, where ever you are, it's ok...unless it's not, then you should make a change.  If your unhappy, scratch that, unfulfilled/dissatisfied/discontent then maybe something needs to give.  But if life circumstances or some shrewd decision making along with the idea of "hey I wanna be there" put you where you are and you are doing the best with what you got, then you are doing what you need to right where you need to be.  So, my first point here is,  give yourself a break...be confident...and STOP COMPARING YOURSELF!!!  Second point...Ladies!!!  LAY OFF ONE ANOTHER, WILL YA!!!!

Mom #1 sends her child to public school, Mom #2 to private school, Mom #3 home-schools her children.  Guess what, they all love their children and they are all trying to give their children the best they can and they all came to these educational decisions for many different reasons.  Why can't we just be ok with that?

We should be lifting one another up, not belittling or insulting the other to make us feel like we are doing the "right" thing because "they" aren't.  Who's to say that my "right" thing is your "right" thing.  We may not be saying some of these negative things to the person's face, but are we saying it to someone?  If it's coming out of our mouths, period, we are perpetuating the problem.  It just makes me so sad to see the lack of support.  Life isn't about whose got "it" and who doesn't.  It's about relationships and what we make of them.  We can't walk around with our insecurities leading us.  We should be walking around saying, "This is who I am, it just is."  Then we should be going straight up to another woman and say, "You are beautiful and you are doing your best.  Good job!"